When MrBrawn first came to our house I thought, "this kid is as dumb as a box of rocks". I've never thought that about a kid before! When I would put him on time out I would ask "why are you on time out?" his reply, "Cuz I wanna play with a dump truck" "No, you are on time out because you said the F word, why are you on time out?" "Cuz I wanna play with my dump truck" This would go on for the entire 3 minutes of time out!
Now nearly 7 months have passed. He's become quite articulate and very verbal. He can memorize quickly and remembers details well. We passed a house that we had been at once 3 months later, from a different direction and he pointed at it and said "Mommy, we were there once!"
To hear him pray will increase your faith. He goes to God with everything. He loves to watch Veggie tales and re-tell Bible stories.
We put in a new gate on the front yard and he was able to get out in less than three minutes. This is no ordinary gate. It is the kind that is state approved to put on a pool fence because it is virtually unworkable by small children.
Unfortunately, because he is so smart, he has the weight of the world on his shoulders. The judge wants kids to be at every court hearing if possible. After this last court hearing he acted out so strongly. He wrapped a long, thin toy around his neck. He told me he was going to cut me and my family and throw us in a fire. When I asked what fire he told me there is a volcano between here and his visit. He wants to go home. He's been told by birth family that all they have to do is get a job and a place to live and he can go home, so he is pinning his hopes on that. But, he heard the judge scold his parent. He also will bring up "the ambulance dropped me off at your house" occasionally. I've corrected him and reminded him that the ambulance does not take people to houses and another lady brought him to me. I've also reiterated that it is not my decision if he stays here or not, and that only the judge makes that decision.
In the past we've talked about the fact that my job is to keep my kids safe. I've told him that when the ambulance took him to the hospital the judge wanted to make sure that he would be safe so he was sent to my house and now the grown ups have lots of business to do to make sure that he will always be safe.
On Monday his daddy told him that he would be going to jail for a while. He explained to MrBrawn that he had made a bad choice and had the car accident and now he had to go on a long time out. MrBrawn often tells my daughter information before me and I heard him telling her in the car on Monday evening that he did not like that his daddy would be going to jail but that he "maked" a bad choice and had to.
That night as he was settling down before bed I noticed a behavior that I had only seen a couple of other times. As he was driving his car he would say "oh no daddy, watch out, kkssshhh (sound of crashing) and crash his car. He repeatedly crashed his car and has continued to do so.
Preschool has reported a marked improvement in him. They say he is coming out of his shell. He has friends and is learning a lot. Today both of the boys didn't even give me kisses or hugs, just kind of waved over their shoulder as they headed in for some fun.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Now Mr Monkey starts to act funny....
I believe I've discovered the source of some of MrMonkey's scratches and bruises. I heard him crying out and went to check on him, to see him get out of bed, bounce off the closet door, into the dresser, stumble, regain footing, the whole while saying "I gonna get it, I gonna get it" went to the toy area, found a toy, back to bed, bumping his head in the process, and then back to sleep.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
We're starting to get concerned....
When MrBrawn came to our household we had some concerns, he seemed obsessed with things having to do with "pee-pees", butts, poop, and other things of that sort. This was at the same time as we were trying to remove the f word from his vocabulary, along with several other unacceptable behaviors.
Only once was there anything significant to report, and it happened while we were in the McDonalds drive-thru. We had just passed the hotel that he had been staying in when he was brought into care and went into his own little world. He was talking to himself when I heard him say something to the effect of "I will put my pee-pee on you and we will kiss on the lips". I said "what?" and he said "oh, uh, I want french fries"
That type of behavior has nearly completely ceased. This weekend I was watching my friend's children and there was a boy who is a few years older than MrBrawn here. As is typical for that age group, I put them in the bathtub together. I was out of sight, but within hearing. I heard MrBrawn say "let's put our pee-pees on each other". I moved in closer and heard the other little guy say, "huh?" and MrBrawn said, "we should play pee-pee sandwich" other little guy said "I think we should play a different game." I walked in and asked MrBrawn if he had played that game before. He said "yeah, with my dad" I said, "well, I've never heard of it, how do you play?" He said "we put butter on our pee-pees and then put them on each other and make a sandwich."
Needless to say, this will be discussed with a mental health counselor.
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